How often do we have expectations of other people and situations?  Quite regularly in most cases.  And, what is the usual outcome - that our expectations aren’t met in some way and we are disappointed.  Let’s  examine this tendency further because it plays a huge factor in how happy we are with our lives.

When we have expectations what does this really mean?  It means we are trying to control something we have no control over.  It doesn’t matter how ‘noble’ our expectations are, they are still expectations. Then, when we don’t get what we want, we blame life for being unfair.  But, have you ever asked yourself, who said life was fair?  What does ‘fair’ even look like and why is one person’s notion of fair different from another’s?  Who is right? 

Fairness is purely arbitrary.  Life is what it is.  There is no great conspiracy to ‘get’ us.  Do we think we are so important that we would be singled out by the universe, God, or who/whatever you see as being supreme?  Time to take a lesson in humility.  It is our own arrogance which makes us think our life should be anything other than it is.  If you don’t like your life, that’s fine.  Take steps to change it.  Set intentions.  But, then let go of your expectations and the outcome.

 Piglet’s philosophy?  Be happy no matter what.

I think this is where we run into trouble.  We have control over our intentions since intentions are internally created. Expectations, on the other hand, are externally created. Therefore we have no control over them.  So, why waste any energy shaking a fist at what is out of our hands?  Instead re-focus on your intentions and see if you are being clear and consistent.  For example, if you are saying to the universe that you are grateful for your material wealth but secretly live in fear of not having enough or it being taken away, the universe reads this as an inconsistent message.  Inconsistency is what will show up in your life.

So, practice being honest with yourself about what you truly believe and then make sure you are being consistent about it.  After that, surrender the results over to the universe.  If you receive what you don’t want, it is because on some level you are sending inconsistent messages.  Instead of being upset, be grateful for whatever you have received.  This is because there is always a lesson for us especially if we dislike the outcome.  The universe is compassionate.  It will allow us as many ‘lessons’ as we need until we become absolutely clear about what we want.  Then and only then, will we manifest our dreams.

With loving intentions,

Anita

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